Does Different Religious Beliefs Matter in Marriage?
Two people are in love and plan to marry, sounds easy enough right? Not when different religions are put into the equation.
A Muslim woman and a Christian man are set to marry, but are hesitant because of their different religions. In Islam, a Muslim woman cannot marry a man that is non-Muslim- the marriage that takes place would be considered invalid. The Muslim woman comes from a Muslim family who are quite liberal. The woman isn’t particularly religious, but she would like to have a religious wedding blessed by God. However, she is sure her boyfriend does not want to convert. The marriage would mean they would be married legally, but not religiously. She is contemplating whether she should ignore her conscience and marry him legally, or break up with him.
Mariella Frostrup gives the advice that religion like any other problems: bathroom habits, competitive parenting or work lives are also factors that may come between a couple. The main issues the Muslim woman should focus on are her family and the virtues of the Christian man.
I disagree with Frostrup when she compares differing religions to bad bathroom habits, competitive parenting, and work lives. To most people religion means something that is deep within their hearts, it makes up who they are. To be able to share that connection with your most significant other means being another step closer to one another. This may be a challenge because if one is not able to share one’s most precious and deepest feelings with the other, the relationship might not work out. Bathroom habits, competitive parenting and work can be changed. It doesn’t necessary define them. Most people however, don’t just change their religion because of differing views and beliefs with their significant other.
Having said that, there are marriages with couple that have different religious beliefs that do work. Respect is vital. It is a chance to discuss one’s own faith to a significant other. I think that as long as a married couple isn’t too serious about religion- that is they are able to respect each other’s religion- even if they’re both strongly religious they will have a strong relationship.
I think that the meaning of religion is different for everyone. The matter of religion and marriage can vary between each person. I believe that the Muslim woman and the Christian man should focus on what they believe and want. Ultimately, it is up to the Muslim woman and Christian man to decide if they want to marry or not. A marriage is between two people so other people can voice out their opinions but they shouldn’t have the say of if one can marry to someone or not regardless of their background and beliefs.